Its quite uncanny how often we engage ourselves in a mental tiff over what is right and what's not, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. And invariably, the reason why that happens is because of the damned mind! The heart says something, and the mind always decides to go against it, as if to say, oh, lets have a bit of fun with this dumbass. We have all heard this shit a million times -- "Always follow what your heart says"...blah blah n some more blah, but seldom do we actually practise it. If we did, then we'd never be confused in life and there never would be those ugly fights and quarrels. Well, 'never' is probably a little too strong a word, but you get the point. Following your heart may not always be the right thing, but you'll never regret following it, because you did what you felt was right and if you trust yourself enough, then you will never regret your decisions. Give it a thought, in any situation, its always the heart that speaks up first, and you feel tempted to go ahead with it.. Why? Because that is what will make you happy, thats what will give you satifaction... but no! the immediate next moment, your brain steps in (as if not to get left behind) and it makes you 'THINK', and think over trifling matters...
A simple example - imagine, you have met this really lovely person and your getting to know her; you probably have developed a slight crush on this person as well, and you feel that she might be interested in you too. You exchange numbers and what do you then?
Your heart will say, "go ahead call her, or message her".... your head will say, "Wait a bit, wait a bit... let her call you first, see if she's showing interest". And you are left thinking -- should I call her, should I not, what'll she think, is it too early etc etc...
SO WHAT WILL SHE THINK.... that you're being nice, that you're being sweet, nothing wrong there... or she's thinking that you're coming on too strong, that you're expressing interest in her..?? If she's thinking all those things, then she's herself messed up by her 'head'. Im sure you all are getting the drift here....
One casual call or message, and for that you subject yourself to such levels of mental anxiety. The good ol' brain of yours triumphs again! Eliminate that from the equation, and the guy would have probably been spending long hours on the phone with the girl before too long (that again is subject to the compatibility and how well they hit it off.. lol, but atleast he gave himself a chance there)
You've always heard the term...getting "mindfucked"... why is it always that your mind gets fucked... have you ever heard something like getting "heartfucked" ??
You shall never even hear that because you will never go wrong on that front. And even when you do feel heart-aches, or you do suffer heart breaks... its never due to the heart... this is always due to the mind... the damned mind! All those quarrels and those petty fights, those ego problems... its all in the mind, the heart never had anything to do with it, if you love or loved someone, your heart would've always wanted you to sort out the differences, or make it up to her, probably gift her something sweet, give her a nice card maybe, take her out fer dinner... but that ego which germinated in your head, won't let you do any of those things, and will fuel the fire............. a month or two later, your dating someone else, while still trying to get over your heartbreak.
A whole lotta crap, you may say... true! it sure is... and most definitely it will be that head thats saying it. But give it a thought, i've experienced it, we all have sometime or the other... yet we continue to make the same mistakes, we let our minds get the better of us, and the poor old heart gets jostled out for no fault of its own.
Evangelistic as I may sound, but it just irritates me.. why can't people be their natural selves, why do they have to change their thinking to suit others, why are people so conscious about what others are thinking...
Basically, if we all make a conscious effort to follow our hearts, there'll be a tremendous increase in the positive energy, a lot less negativity, a lot more love and caring, everyone's happy, everyone wins.
(Holy crap!! that was longg!! so I can write a whole lotta shit! ;))
p.s. The example contained in the above post was purely for representational purposes, not directed towards anyone in particular.
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